A Little Philosophy: Make yourself found

While it is easy to find people and groups who have similar interests, it takes more work to have people find you.

I once had a friend who wore the same bright, brimmed hat everywhere, whether such an accessory was actually needed. Why? She did this because she wanted people to not only notice her, but to make no mistake about who she was.

While the majority of us have nothing to sell, it is nice to meet people with whom we can share conversations. One way to attract such people is to be “found.”

Obviously, attending groups and special interest events will help us meet others. If, however, we strive to blend in, it becomes highly probable that we won’t be seen (or recognized) at all.

A key to becoming “found” is to make ourselves physically noticeable. Attend events wearing defining pieces, such as a hat, scarf, or jacket. Online, present yourself with a clear selfie, or use a single original illustration or emoji only you have. (That’s me on the right.)

Also pay attention to what others want to know. Be forthcoming in answering questions as well as showing that you are appreciative of what others are saying.

Keep your conversation current, or research what others are saying so when you do join conversations, you’ll feel at ease and others will feel at ease with you.

Even more important, keep track of people’s names, whether on- or off-line, and note their viewpoints.

Becoming found must be followed by becoming remembered. Here us a recap plus a few more points on how you can achieve both.

  • Regularly wear the same (or very similar) distinctive piece, such as a hat, vest, scarf, etc.
  • When attending an event, make sure to wear a bright pop of color
  • If appropriate and you are a big fan, wear team accessories
  • If possible, have your hair professionally styled, and stick with the style
  • Carry a distinctive accessory, such as hand- or carrier-bag
  • Give out uniquely designed contact cards
  • For online profiles, use a sharp  photo of yourself that features a bright color. In the example below, the bright golden yellow might be more graphically memorable than my face.

  • If you do not want to picture yourself, have a unique illustration developed for use in all of your profiles. Want an animal profile? Contact me with $50, and I’ll make it happen!


Article by Karen Little, first published for Littleviews.com on August 9, 2019. You can publish this article in a non-commercial site with permission from Karen.

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